Knowing What We Want: Echoes of Strength in A Whispering Soul

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Perspective

I hope you’re taking gentle care of yourself today, wherever you are, whatever chapter of life you’re in. This time, I want to talk about something we don’t always say out loud: "how important it is for us, as women, to know what we truly want in our relationships".

Knowing what we want is an act of quiet courage. It’s the strength to listen to the soft voice within when the world shouts otherwise. In a whisper, a woman finds her truth, gentle, yet unshakably strong.

It sounds simple, "know what you want", but in truth, it’s one of the hardest things to practice. Many of us grew up being told to be kind, patient, and accommodating. We learned to listen before speaking, to love without asking too much, and to wait quietly for things to fall into place. But rarely were we taught that clarity is also kindness, to ourselves and to others.

When we don’t know what we want, we leave room for confusion and disappointment. We might settle for someone who offers attention but not respect, affection but not consistency. We tell ourselves stories that love will grow, that they’ll change, that maybe our expectations are too high. But deep down, we feel the quiet ache of something missing. And that ache, when ignored for too long, turns into resentment toward others, and sometimes toward us.

Knowing what we want is not about being demanding; it’s about being grounded. It’s the ability to say: "This is what love means to me. This is what safety feels like. This is what I will and will not accept". It’s understanding that self-awareness isn’t selfish, it’s self-respect. When we know our boundaries, we protect our hearts from illusions, from promises that sound sweet but have no roots.

There’s a kind of peace that comes with clarity. It frees us from waiting for someone else to define our happiness. It teaches us that we can love deeply without losing ourselves, that we can be soft yet firm, giving discerning. Because love is not supposed to silence us. It’s supposed to make us feel heard.

And still, so many of us are afraid to speak our minds. We worry that being honest will push people away, that saying what we need will make us "too much". But the truth is, the right person will never fear your voice. They’ll listen, they’ll understand, and they’ll meet you halfway. Real love thrives in honesty, not in guessing games.

Marriage, or any kind of commitment, shouldn’t be the measure of our worth. It’s a beautiful thing, yes, but it’s not the destination of every woman’s story. Sometimes the greatest success is walking away from something that doesn’t align with who we are. Sometimes it’s choosing peace over approval. When we know what we want, we protect ourselves from the pain of false expectations, those dreams that look beautiful on the surface but crumble when touched by reality.

So, here’s to the women still learning to listen to their inner voice. To those unlearning silence, one honest word at a time. To the ones brave enough to say, "I deserve more than almost love".

Because when a woman truly knows what she wants, she no longer chases validation, she attracts respect. She no longer hides patience: "she stands with purpose". And in that moment, her love becomes something stronger, steadier, and truer than anything she’s ever known.

Warm regards 

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