PERSPECTIVE: My resolution in 2023?

 Hey everyone, what’s up?

Time flies quickly, and whether we’re ready or not, the future comes rushing at us.

We can’t stop time by sitting still or avoiding life. It moves on no matter what. As I grow older, I realize our bodies have limits, we can’t live forever, but our dreams and spirits can last beyond time. Life isn’t always sweet, sometimes, we have to taste its bitterness too. Ups and downs are part of the journey, so it’s important to enjoy the ride and remember to relax along the way.

Perspective

With 2023 approaching, many people are excited to start new chapters in their lives, whether it’s a new career, a new family, or a new business. What about you? Do you have resolutions for the new year? For me, the new year always makes me reflect on my age and what I’ve done so far. Now that I’m 23, I sometimes feel like I was 20 just yesterday. Psychologists say that when we miss moments from the past, we tend to want to stay in those times. I love remembering my childhood and teenage years, the time before serious responsibilities and stress, when life was simpler. I treasure the moments I shared with my friends and family. I once even cried to my mom, afraid of losing her as I get older. Though we can’t control life, we can control how we respond to it.

For 2023 and my 23rd year, I know I have to push myself more and bravely take charge of my life. My goals are in my hands, and while I stumbled a bit in my early twenties, I’m thankful I found my way back. Life happens for a reason, so it’s important not to regret or get too upset. I’ve faced many challenges and learned the value of staying focused. I don’t want to waste my time on things that don’t align with my values. This year, I want to pursue my passions, especially in my career, and hope to achieve my goals step by step. Here are the four main areas I’m focusing on in 2023.

·      Career

Dear future husband: I’m working hard for our future family! I come from a hardworking family and don’t like to be idle. I enjoy being productive and building a career. When I was younger, I never imagined I’d be so driven by my career, but now I love engaging in professional life. I believe hard work pays off. For the past year and a half, I’ve worked in finance. The money is good, but my heart isn’t in it. The fast pace and constant pressure don’t bring me peace. I’m learning that work should add value to my life, not just be about the paycheck. So, in 2023, I plan to change my career path and do something I truly love. I want to work to live, not live to work. I have two career options I’m considering and hope to explore them soon, especially during my Master’s degree. I’ll keep those plans private for now, but I’m excited about the future.

·      Relationship

My relationship experience isn’t full of fairy-tale moments. I’ve had only one serious relationship, my first love, and I’m still learning what a healthy relationship looks like. Coming from a divorced family, I believe I still deserve happiness. I spend time reading and listening to advice about strong, healthy relationships because I want to find the right person to marry, just once in my life, that’s my principle. My mom didn’t remarry after divorce and raised me beautifully. I respect her strength and focus on family. As I get older, I accept that life isn’t always perfect and that’s okay. I’m surrounded by many friends who are still single and career-focused too. I believe a strong relationship often starts with friendship, and I hope to find that someday. I value loyalty deeply and am looking for someone genuine, not perfect. I’m not rushing but staying open to love when the right time comes.

·      Next Degree

My mom often encourages me to pursue more education. She recently called to remind me about continuing my Master’s degree soon. I’m 23 now and hope to finish my degree by 25 so I can focus on my career. Great parents help create great generations, and I want to be a role model for my future children. I’m excited to deepen my knowledge and gain new perspectives. Since university, I’ve wanted to study abroad. I graduated from one of Indonesia’s top universities, Universitas Gadjah Mada, which makes me proud. Many leaders, including our president, came from there. I’m interested in becoming a lecturer or researcher but still figuring out my long-term path. I don’t want to return to finance! I’m considering Australia or Southeast Asia for my Master’s. I recently got an invitation from a professor in Australia, which is exciting. Some friends laugh at me for thinking about staying close to home, but I think it’s okay to be near family. Wish me luck!

·      Cooking

Like many women, I love cooking and baking. There’s nothing better than food made with love from your own kitchen. Even if life gets busy, I want to make time for cooking healthy, delicious meals for my family. Coming from a country rich in spices and natural ingredients, I’m eager to improve my skills. My first try cooking seafood wasn’t bad at all! I enjoy experimenting with recipes and often get ideas from the internet. Cooking is fun for me, and I’m a homebody, so it fits perfectly. My mom loves baking too, though she’s not very skilled, but we share a passion for it. We often laugh about our failed kitchen adventures. In 2023, I hope to get better and be able to provide healthy, tasty meals for my future husband and kids, but I don’t want to be a full-time housewife either!

That’s my outlook and resolutions for 2023. I want to be better and hope God will be kind to me this year. A kind heart deserves happiness. We might be luckier than others, so never stop being kind. I’m cheering for your 2023 resolutions too, much love and God bless!

Warm regards :b